Elon Pendulum 3/27/12: Astley’s absence creates space for reflection, dialogue. He still leaves the light on in her bedroom at night, even though she won’t be coming home. Nearly nine months after the death of his daughter, Malcolm Astley is still learning to cope with his grief, and he is not alone. Both those who knew Lauren Astley personally and those who were moved by her story attended a gathering of friends in her memory Monday afternoon, led by Lauren’s parents and Chaplain Jan Fuller.